Managing Holiday Stress: Tips for a Joyful & Relaxing Season
Reviewed By: Rebecca Anderson, FNP-BC
As the comforting feelings of Thanksgiving pass, many of us experience the rush of excitement and anticipation for the December holidays. The cheerful music, family traditions, and gift shopping all represent a time most individuals look forward to all year long. However, experiencing “holiday stress” can be just as common as joy during this time. The holiday season is a busy time, often involving a lot of planning, socializing, and spending. Adding all of this to your normal day-to-day responsibilities can take a mental and physical toll on your well-being. We’re here to help you feel more present, balanced, and carefree this holiday season so you can enjoy your time off with loved ones. Let’s discover how to manage holiday stress!
Common Causes of Holiday Stress
Stress around the holiday season can be brought on for many reasons, including:
- Overscheduling and time constraints: There’s not much time between Thanksgiving and the December holidays. This can make individuals feel intense pressure to prepare for the holidays in a constrained amount of time, leading to excess stress and anxiety. Because people wish to get the most out of this season, they tend to fill their schedules with as many holiday parties, family get-togethers, and gift exchanges as possible. Although these are likely scheduled with the intention of fun and connection, overcommitting can make you neglect your personal needs, increase stress, and bring about feelings of overwhelm [1].
- Financial strain: Buying gifts for your friends, kids, coworkers, and family members can get extremely pricey. This, plus the amount you spend on activities, decorations, and party outfits, can create a stressful financial burden. Although many individuals simply don’t have the budget to spend extra around the holidays, they still feel an obligation to buy gifts and other holiday necessities. Parents, especially, tend to feel intense pressure to overspend around the holidays, with some even prioritizing gifts over monthly bills [2].
- Family dynamics: Everyone’s family situation is different. While some individuals are lucky to have family members who all get along harmoniously at gatherings, others experience stress due to family conflict. Whether your family members have differing views and values or there is an ongoing fight between a few members, this can create a tense atmosphere during and before a family gathering.
- Grief or loneliness: The holiday season is often viewed as a time for loved ones to spend quality time together and show their appreciation for one another. For individuals who are struggling with grief or loneliness, this can be a difficult season. Seeing others surrounded by loved ones can trigger feelings of sadness, loss, and isolation among these individuals [3].
Unhealthy expectations and perfectionism: The media has created the image of a “perfect holiday,” full of conflict-free time with loved ones, sentimental gifts, and a busy schedule of themed activities. Although we’d all love to experience this, a “perfect” holiday season is simply not realistic for most. These unrealistic expectations can lead to heightened stress, anxiety, and burnout [4].
8 Practical Tips to Reduce Holiday Stress & Reclaim Your Joy
Set Realistic Expectations
The first step for reducing holiday stress and feeling more content about the season is to let go of your perfectionistic expectations. You can still plan a fun holiday season, but the pressure for perfection only worsens stress. Instead of planning the season around others’ expectations or the media’s depiction of how the holidays should look, focus on what truly matters to you. What value is important to you? Is it family togetherness, showing appreciation through gifts, setting goals and resolutions for yourself, or a combination of these? Whatever your values are, focus on them to ensure you stay grounded and calm this holiday season.
Prioritize Rest & Sleep
Planning for this season can be time-consuming and exhausting. It may be tempting to stay up late online shopping for gifts, planning parties, and stressing about get-togethers. However, studies have shown that not getting enough quality sleep makes stress more difficult to manage [5]. Quality sleep also affects your body’s ability to regulate emotions [6]. To reduce your stress levels, ensure you are getting at least 7 hours of quality sleep each night [7]. If you are struggling to ease your mind around bedtime, try mindfulness exercises like meditation, journaling, and focusing on your breathing to promote feelings of calm [8].
Plan Ahead (But Leave Room for Flexibility)
Planning activities far in advance can help manage unnecessary stress. By sorting out plans ahead of time, you eliminate the anxiety of last-minute arrangements and uncertainties. Think about which techniques have worked in the past for work or school, and use those same techniques for planning your holiday season. For example, some people prefer physical planning tools like an agenda or calendar, while others prefer digital tools like phone reminders or organization applications.
When planning, leave room for flexibility. Unexpected changes, cancellations, and reworkings may come up—and this is okay. You cannot control your plans completely, especially if they involve other people. Additionally, you should leave ample time for your existing responsibilities and relaxation time. For example, avoid scheduling holiday events during your workday, and ensure your schedule isn’t jam-packed with obligations. Allow yourself some room to breathe. This will make your holiday season more enjoyable and less chaotic.
Create a Holiday Budget
Having a set budget in mind before spending can help keep you stress-free and guilt-free this holiday season. It may help to create separate budgets for gifts, activities, decorations, and other things you typically spend on during this season. Make this budget as realistic as possible, and ensure you take into account your other budgets and financial responsibilities. Remember, a low budget doesn’t mean you will have a disappointing holiday season. There are plenty of incredible “do it yourself,” or DIY, gift and decor ideas that won’t break the bank. Sometimes, these thoughtful gifts are even more meaningful than expensive ones!
Practice Mindful Eating & Movement
When we are caught up in stressful moments, we may forget about or neglect caring for our bodies. However, failing to care for your body can have adverse effects on your health, especially related to stress levels [9, 10]. Make an effort to stay balanced during this busy season by prioritizing eating three nutritious meals and moving your body for about 30 minutes each day. If you struggle with this, try techniques like meal-prepping or joining an exercise group!
Say “No” Without Guilt
Learning how to decline plans and set healthy boundaries is a skill everyone should learn to manage their stress and time. The holiday season is hectic for almost everyone, and overcommitting to plans and responsibilities can only exacerbate burnout. By politely declining invitations and delegating responsibilities, you protect your time and peace of mind. Many individuals struggle with saying “no” or setting boundaries because they are fearful of being perceived as rude or selfish. However, when it comes to your health, you should always put your well-being first. There’s nothing selfish about this! To politely decline plans, try this script:
“Thank you so much for thinking of me! Unfortunately, I’m not able to attend this time around, but I look forward to seeing you another time.”
Make Time for Self-Care and Solitude
Regularly practicing self-care and solitude is just as important as your other responsibilities, like work and socializing. Self-care looks different for everyone. Self-care counts as any activity that supports your physical, mental, and emotional well-being. Common self-care practices include journaling, breathwork, yoga, meditation, preparing nutritious meals, making time for relaxation, and engaging in self-reflection.
It can be easy to overlook self-care during the holiday season. To ensure you practice it, add daily 10-minute self-care sessions to your calendar or agenda to restore calm between activities. These can be scheduled for the morning, between plans, and/or before you sleep.
Focus on Connection Over Perfection
Did you know that practicing gratitude increases positive moods and decreases feelings of stress and anxiety [11]? It’s true—experts explain that practicing gratitude every day is linked to improvements in well-being. So, instead of focusing on perfection during this season, direct your attention toward the aspects of life you are grateful for. According to a LifeWay research study, the majority of Americans report being thankful for their family [12]. Connect this sense of gratitude with meaningful activities that provide an opportunity to spend quality time with family members and make memories.
Supporting Your Mental Health During the Holidays
Part of stepping away from the pressure of having a “perfect” holiday season is recognizing that you may be struggling with your mental health. If you’re feeling on edge, hopeless, or down, and you’re experiencing loss of interest in hobbies, trouble sleeping, or difficulty managing your emotions, you may be struggling with anxiety or depression [13]. If these symptoms persist, it’s important to consult with a mental health professional for support. Remember, your health and wellness always come first, in all seasons.
Tips for Seniors and Caregivers Navigating the Holidays
Seniors and caregivers may experience higher levels of stress and burnout during the holiday season, especially if they already have a lot on their plates. For some, this time of year can also bring feelings of grief or loneliness, particularly if they’ve lost loved ones or are spending the holidays without close family nearby. To avoid burnout as a senior or caregiver, make sure you are taking care of your physical health, prioritizing self-care, setting boundaries, and leaving ample time for rest. Consider simplifying holiday traditions, especially if they cause unnecessary stress or overexertion. Above all, don’t hesitate to ask for help and support during this time. Your loved ones—and your community—are there for you to lean on, especially for emotional support.
You Deserve a Joyful and Peaceful Holiday Season
We hope that these tips for managing holiday stress resonated with you. With diligence, anyone can manage their stress and create a more balanced holiday season. Remember, sometimes doing fewer activities can actually bring more joy to your life during this time. Focus on what matters most: your health, relationships, and well-being. For additional support and encouragement, contact Greater Good Health today!
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